Life is as uncertain as a roller-coaster ride. Each one of us face ups and down in life. But most of us consider life is unfair and uncertain forever. But life is actually 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. We all have gone through bad phases at-least once in life. But we are still here reading this article this means we have hope and we know somewhere in the corner of our heart that all will be okay one day, its just a bad phase of life and it will pass. We must learn how to react positively, be optimistic even in negative circumstances. Because thinking negatively can drag down our moods, our actions and even our health. And once we loose these things, we cant retain it even in our good times. Here are some benefits of staying positive.
Benefits Of Staying Positive
- Positive thinkers attract success
- Live long healthy life
- They have better approach for relationships
- Positive thinking reduces depression levels
- Lower levels of anxiety
- Help to build strong Immune system
- Better psychological and physical well-being
- Happy and healthy Heart
- Ability to recover quickly from difficulties and tough situations
- Always Focused and concentrated
- More confident
Steps To Stay Positive And Optimistic Entire Life
Here are top 10 ways to stay positive and optimistic in life, by following and implementing these steps, you can live peaceful and calm life.
Focus on what you have, not what you want
Oftentimes, our suffering in life is caused by unmet expectations. We always want more in our life than what we already have. What are you grateful for? What do you appreciate about the things you already have in your life? What do you love most about the people around you? How often do you ask yourself and others these powerful questions? Sadly, many of us don’t take the time to ask or answer these types of questions on a regular basis, especially in the midst of these difficult times and the stress and expectation of the holidays. Poor we, never appreciate thing we have, always try to get more and more in life. We should always make an effort to recognize all the little positive things that happen throughout the day.
Do you know that we have powerful capabilities to choose positive emotions and ways of thinking over negative emotions. Many of our experiences in life are a result of how we interpret and respond to our surroundings. Here is small story of a man who had been in prison for almost 30 years. When he was asked what he appreciated most about being out of jail, he said, “Seeing the stars, listening to children laugh and hearing dogs bark.” Wow !! think of all the simple things we take for granted that we could choose to be grateful for each day, instead of focusing our attention on what we don’t have, what we want or what we think we deserve (but haven’t been given yet).
Promote the attitude of gratitude.
Gratitude is more than a feeling, it’s a doing. Dozens of studies have shown that gratitude is good for you. It changes your perspective almost immediately, and the rewards keep growing the more you practice. Gratitude helps you feel more positive, enhances your relationships with others, encourages compassion, and increases feelings of happiness.
Gratitude is one of the strongest and most transformative states of being. It shifts your perspective from lack to abundance and allows you to focus on the good in your life, which in turn pulls more goodness into your reality. Jen Sincero
Some people have natural trait of gratitude, some people has to promote their hidden trait of gratitude. You should avoid taking things for granted whether its a relationship or any opportunity. You should try to approach things without feeling like you’re entitled to a certain result, action, or benefit. You should share your feelings of gratitude with others, this helps you set those feelings in your memory. It can also inspire positive feelings in the people you share with.
See the Glass as it is, not half filled not half empty
“Is the glass half empty or half full?” is a common expression, a proverbial phrase, generally used rhetorically to indicate that a particular situation could be a cause for Pessimism (half empty) or Optimism (half full). This test simply determines an individual’s worldview. Well you need not to focus on seeing glass always full, see the glass as it is.
you can’t change the way you think if you can’t identify the problem. So accept that you have negative thoughts and feelings, try to find the cause of that feelings and emotions and then work upon it. You should not judge yourself for your thoughts or feelings. Remember that the thoughts that pop up or the feelings you experience are not inherently “good” or “bad,” they’re just thoughts and feelings. What you can control is how you interpret and respond to them. Always remember that the greater the challenge, the more this glass-half-full wisdom can come across as unrealistic. The real obstacle to positivity is that our brains are hard-wired to look for and focus on threats. Maintaining positivity is a daily challenge that requires focus and attention. You must be intentional about staying positive if you’re going to overcome the brain’s tendency to focus on threats.
Start Writing diary or journal
Make an effort to recognize all the little positive things that happen throughout the day. Write them down in a journal. Humans have a bad tendency to focus on the negative stuff and let the positive things slide right past us. When you note the positive things in your life, take a moment to mindfully acknowledge them. Try to store them in your memory. Praise starts, flowers, birds, nature everything we already have. Don’t focus much on materialistic things. Try to take a mental snapshot of the moment. Doing so can help you remember these things later, when you’re having a hard time or a negative experience.
If you struggle with a particular area, try actively focusing on finding positive affirmations in that area. Write down all the good qualities you have. For example, if you have body image issues, try saying something like, “I am beautiful and strong” or “I can learn to love myself as I love others” or “I am worthy of love and respect.” Sometimes we underestimate ourselves, out of society pressure. Actually you may not realize how attractive you are, but writing diary or journal will help you to identify and boost your self esteem.
Develop trait of optimism
Optimism is a way of interpreting the world. Thanks to the human brain’s flexibility, you can learn different ways of interpreting! Pessimistic outlooks view the world in unchangeable, internalized terms: “Everything is unfair,” “I’ll never be able to change this,” “My life sucks and it’s my fault.” An optimistic outlook views the world in flexible, limited terms. Here not suggested you to avoid or ignore negative experiences. However, trying to repress or ignore these experiences actually damages your ability to deal with them. Instead, consider how you can framer these experiences. Instead of letting yourself immediately respond to a challenge or negative experience with negativity, take a step back and examine the situation. What really went wrong? What is really at stake? What can you learn from this to do differently next time? Has this experience taught you to be kinder, more generous, wiser, stronger? Taking a moment to reflect on the experience, rather than automatically seeing it as negative, will help you re-interpret it.
Shorten your friendliest and time on social media
We all witnessed the previous year growth period of social media and how quickly we became addicted and slaves of it. People share their weekend, their food, their clothes, their travel story and anything else from the most important to the most ridiculously unimportant things.
There is nothing wrong with the platform itself. No social media network did anything wrong, the problem is the way a lot of people use it and the role it plays in their lives. We all know a person in our friendliest who constantly seems to be on the hunt for approval, posting a pretty picture of him or herself every day. Most of the time things are fake, people using the platform this way will just make a person feel lonely and not connected.
Life becomes so much better when you decide not to care. Just live for the moment and don’t let the drama bring you down.
Surrounding yourself with positive environment & People
“Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.” – Karl Marx
Surroundings have a huge impact on your life. You should keep track about the people you’re spending time with, the place you are living, what you eat and how you’re exercising, what your are watching on TV, what your are reading. Surround yourself with people you enjoy spending time, read motivational quotes, inspirational quotes to enrich your life, motivational poems or motivational stories.
Always remember you are average of the five people around you! The environment you work in and the people you spend your time around have a huge impact on your progress as a person. Being in the right place with the right people can make all the difference in your future. When you spend any significant amount of time around someone you start to absorb each others mannerisms and habits. When you’re soaking up parts of other people you want to make sure the people you’re around are a positive influence.
Some people can be parasites. They suck out your happiness, energy and maybe some of your tangible resources as well. Focus on finding Good people, they could be some of your family members, real friends, may be some co-workers. They are people that will inspire you to be a better person, provide you with motivation to achieve your goals, empower you to make the changes you need to succeed and cheer on your success.
Write down the qualities of the people you spend the most time with. Would you call them positive people? Happy? Now think of how they interact and affect you. Do they make you feel like you have what it takes to reach your goals? Do they support you? Do they make you feel attractive? You you feel happy and energized after spending time with them? If you answered “yes” to these questions, you’re probably already surrounded by the good people you need.
You can make your self-environment healthy and loving by doing whatever you like listen to the genre you like, reading, creative painting, writing, origami, etc.
Have the discipline to clean out all the energy-draining people in your life. You really do rise or fall to the level of your associations.
Practicing Meditation and Exercise
Your body and your mind are intimately connected. If you’re struggling to feel positive, it could be because your body is working against you. Some yoga, some exercise postures can affect the levels of stress hormones in your body. You should use your body and minder together to fight negative emotions. Do you know that one of your body part gesture could easily make the surrounding and your mood positive, Yes! that’s your smile. When you smile whether you feel happy or not your brain elevates your mood. When you exercise, your body releases powerful endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals.
It’s very important that we re-learn the art of resting and relaxing. Not only does it help prevent the onset of many illnesses that develop through chronic tension and worrying; it allows us to clear our minds, focus, and find creative solutions to problems. Thich Nhat Hanh
Exercise can help fight feelings of anxiety and depression. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate physical activity every day. Walk, practice Surya-Namaskar yoga, anything that help you feel more positive and increase your overall health.
Develop a trait of Kindness and forgiveness
What goes around comes around, you should not mistreat people at any level, also you should be kind and generous towards every being. There are some universal laws of attraction that actually works in our day today life. What thought you throw to the universe , will be returned one day to you. Our activities and thoughts are like magnet, they attract, that’s why it is advisable to think positive always. Also you should add value and positivity to someone else’s life. Try to listen other’s problems, help them, motivate them, lend a hand when moving, meet people with smile.
Psychologists and priests around the globe regularly advise their patients and congregants to forgive their enemies. However some people don’t deserve our forgiveness, do they? But then again, it’s not really about them, it’s about you, your well being. You deserve to be able to move on, you deserve to be peaceful and calm. Forgiving people is the best way to let go of the resentment festering inside you. You don’t need to condone the person’s actions or let them back into your life to let go of the pain.
You deserve a bright future, not one weighed down by the tragedies of your past. Some people will never give you closure, so you must give it to yourself. Do you know few people practice loving-kindness meditation. Also known as metta bhavana or “compassion meditation,” this type of meditation has roots in Buddhist traditions. It teaches you to extend the feelings of love you already feel for your closest family members and extend it to others in the world. It’s also been shown to improve your resilience your ability to bounce back from negative experiences and your relationships with others in just a few weeks.
Stop comparing & being Judgemental
The more you invest in growing and developing your mindset and way of seeing the world, the more everything you touch transforms in a breathtakingly positive way. – Unknown
When we see any one happy and prosperous in life, we get jealous & sad. For example: your neighbor may have big car, house than yours and this is ruining your everyday, “why don’t I have?”. Always remember grass is green on the other side and everyone has their own timeline and journey to achieve success and prosperity in life. Being judgemental, having a negative perspective and comparing your life with others, will bring your self-esteem down and nothing else. You never know what negative circumstances someone going through. Do you share every bad experiences of life with everyone? Do your neighbor know what bad phases of life you have gone through? No! right? so you might be always a happy go lucky person in someone else’s perspective. Similarly you don’t know what others are going through, what struggles they have faced in life. So appreciate your journey. Everything that has happened in the past has led you to become who you are today. These experiences have shaped you to become the person you are today. Embrace it and use your learning to become the best possible version of yourself.
Always remember that we don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. Improve the outlook on your life. Hope you like the article about “How to stay positive always even in tough situations“. Share this friends and family and help them to bring positive outcomes in life.